Do you have a friend who you've thought at times could be more than a friend? Squiremein has for 10 years, she explained to Reddit : "Paul and I have been best friends for years. Throughout our friendship, we've flirted, but he's always been in serious relationships with someone else. I've been his shoulder to cry on throughout it all. Our friendship has always been strictly platonic with moments of slip-ups. The ensuing story is long and complicated, but here's the gist: Years ago, they kissed while he was broken up with his girlfriend, but he and the girlfriend got back together soon after. Their friendship was strained after that and they lived apart, but he visited Squiremein's town recently. After a night of drinking, he confessed that he always had feelings for her, and they slept together. The next day, though, he told her they couldn't date because he didn't want to risk losing her.
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These are the results of sleeping with your best friend:
Obviously taking friendship to the next level tends to go wrong for a lot of people, for us, it made our friendship even stronger. It made me realize how much we trusted each other. Because we had an already established friendship, there was a huge amount of trust between us and this was clearer than ever when we had sex. Sleeping together came with a sense of ease—it felt totally safe because of our existing connection.
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Katie had been my best friend since childhood. It was a friendship first orchestrated by our parents. I know that sounds gross.
Plus, sex with your friend in a no strings attached relationship always complicates things and someone ALWAYS gets attached. However, most of us with besties of the opposite sex at least try to keep things on a strictly platonic level. Sometimes, though, we cross that line and wake up in bed naked next to the person who knows every little thing about us including, now, how we have sex. Take a deep breath and remain calm. You and your best friend have to act normal with each other. If you planned on grabbing a bite to eat or going to a show the next day, you still need to go! Changing your plans because of sex will not only ruin your plans, it could also very likely unintentionally ruin your relationship. If he is okay with it just being two friends having sex, and you feel the same, then you and your best friend can go on being best friends and put the whole thing behind you.