This post was originally published on MyBlackMatters. I was always told I was black. I was black, but not quite black enough or not black black but still black to say the least. I was told that in my life, I would have certain privileges. Privileges that darker women would not be able to acquire and I should be grateful for that. I should be happy that I would be more desired for receptionist jobs and I should be overjoyed that if a white boy happened to like me, I would be eligible for a seat at family dinner because I'm not black black, remember? I should appreciate the automatic assumptions that I am foreign, that if I have a weave it is my real hair, and that I'm way too narcissistic to give most boys the time of day. I should never ever complain about my skin because real black girls go through things every day that I will never be able to relate to. I understand that my skin has privileged me in some ways.
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All Rights Reserved. Powered by WordPress. N ipsey Hussle was having a beautiful memorial service and, for some reason, rapper YG decided to bring colorism to the stage. Social media users were disgusted. We in trouble my nigga, what we gonna do? The death of the year-old rapper has touched millions of people, including those who may not have been familiar with him before, which is why a public memorial at the Staples Center in Los Angeles seemed fitting.
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As Kanye West reminded us a few days ago, colorism is alive and well. Race matters, even within communities of color. While West has since tried to walk back his tweet, this most recent controversy has reignited debates about skin tone, blackness and bias in communities of color. For those of us whose skin color is closer to a double shot cappuccino or darker, the latest indignity from Kanye West — himself a dark-skinned black man — is a painful reminder of the continuing degradation directed at dark-skinned black women and the rejection of black beauty. Because the truth of it is, skin color still matters, even within our communities.
Blackfishing — where people change their skin colour and hair to appear black — is a strange trend. One blogger accused of blackfishing told Metro. And what does it say about society that women appropriating black features may be considered more sexually attractive than actual black women?